Here are some ideas that you may be able to use to cope with the pain you are feeling.

• grieve in your own way and in your own time.
• hear the advice of others, but choose what you need or what feels right for you.
• take care of yourselves.
• rest, relax and exercise.
• have time alone.
• spend time with someone you trust.
• understand what has happened and make sense of the changes that are happening in your life.
• be with someone who:
  has patience
  is willing to listen
  respects feelings
  is not upset by tears
  will keep the persons story private.
• Make as few changes as possible until you feel you are ready.

What is GRIEF

Grief is a natural response to loss. It is what we feel emotionally when something or someone we love is taken away. Most people associate it with death– and this type of loss does often cause the most intense grief. But any loss can cause grief, including:



A relationship breakup
Loss of health
Losing a job
Loss of financial stability
A miscarriage
Death of a pet
Loss of a cherished dream
A loved one’s serious illness
Loss of a friendship
Loss of safety after a trauma
Moving to a new home




Some times the most simple loss can cause someone to grieve. You may feel grief after you loose your job, sell your home, graduate from school or experience a large life change.



Everyone grieves differently. The way you deal with grief is very personal. How you grieve depends on many factors, including your personality and coping style, your life experience, your faith, and the nature of the loss. The grieving process takes time. Healing happens gradually; it can’t be forced or hurried – and there is no “normal” timetable for grieving. Some people start to feel better in weeks or months. For others, the grieving process is measured in years. Whatever your grief experience, it’s important to be patient with yourself and allow the process to naturally unfold.

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