Here are some ideas that you may be able to use to cope with the pain you are feeling.

• grieve in your own way and in your own time.
• hear the advice of others, but choose what you need or what feels right for you.
• take care of yourselves.
• rest, relax and exercise.
• have time alone.
• spend time with someone you trust.
• understand what has happened and make sense of the changes that are happening in your life.
• be with someone who:
  has patience
  is willing to listen
  respects feelings
  is not upset by tears
  will keep the persons story private.
• Make as few changes as possible until you feel you are ready.